Change your mental attitude, and the world around you will change accordingly. Your world will become what you choose to make it. You can reach great heights of success, or you can settle for a miserable life that is devoid of hope. The choice is yours. When you choose a positive course, you set in motion an unstoppable force that will allow you to have a fulfilling career, the love of your family and friends, good physical and mental health, and all of the other true riches of life. To change your world, you must change it from the inside out. You must begin with yourself. When you choose the course that puts your life on a positive track, you will change your life for the better, and you will also positively influence the people with whom you come in contact.
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रावण ने लक्ष्मण को बताई थी सफलता की कुंजी : पहली बात जो रावण ने लक्ष्मण को बताई वह यह थी कि उचित कार्य जितनी जल्दी हो कर डालना और अनुचित को जितना अधिक टाल सकते हो टाल देना चाहिए यानी ‘शुभस्य शीघ्रम्’। रावण ने लक्ष्मण को बताया, 'मैं श्रीराम को पहचान नहीं सका और उनकी शरण में आने में देरी कर दी, इसी के चलते मेरी यह हालत हुई'। इसके बाद रावण ने लक्ष्मण को जो दूसरी बात बताई वह और भी हैरान कर देने वाली थी। उसने कहा, "अपने प्रतिद्वंद्वी अर्थात अपने शत्रु को कभी स्वयं से छोटा नहीं समझना चाहिए, वह आपसे भी अधिक बलशालि हो सकता है। मैंने श्रीराम को तुच्छ मनुष्य समझा और सोचा कि उन्हें हराना मेरे लिए काफी आसान होगा, लेकिन यही मेरी सबसे बड़े भूल थी।" रावण ने आगे कहा, "मैंने जिन्हें साधारण वानर और भालू समझा उन्होंने मेरी पूरी सेना को नष्ट कर डाला। मैंने जब ब्रह्माजी से अमरता का वरदान मांगा था तब मनुष्य और वानर के अतिरिक्त कोई मेरा वध न कर सके ऐसा कहा था क्योंकि मैं मनुष्य और वानर को तुच्छ समझता था, यही मेरी गलती थी।" रावण ने लक्ष्मण को तीसरी और अंतिम बात यह बताई कि अपने जीवन का कोई राज हो तो उसे किसी को भी नहीं बताना चाहिए। यहां भी मैं चूक गया क्योंकि विभीषण मेरी मृत्यु का राज जानता था, अगर उसे मैं यह न बताता तो शायद आज मेरी यह दुर्गति न होती।"
दी स्पीकिंग ट्री
NO-THINGNESS: Only nothingness can be infinite; somethingness is bound to be finite. Only out of nothingness is an infinite expanse of life, existence, possible - not out of somethingness. God is not somebody: He is nobody or, more correctly, nobodiness. God is not something: he is nothing or, even more correctly, no-thingness. He is a creative void. Never for a single moment think that nothingness is a negative state, an absence, no. Nothingness is simply no-thingness. Things disappear, only the ultimate substance remains. Forms disappear, only the formless remains. Definitions disappear, the undefined remains. The awakening of a Buddha is total. In that total awakening there is a luminous awareness surrounded by a positive nothingness. It is not empty, it is overfull. Things have disappeared... and what has remained is inexpressible. We try to express it as blissfulness, as ecstasy, as eternal joy, but these are just faraway echoes of the real thing.
You Can Change Your Life: Life is about constant, predictable patterns of change, and the only constant factor will be our feelings and attitudes toward life. We as human beings have the power of attitude and that attitude determines choice, and choice determines results. All that we are and all that we can become has indeed been left to us to decide and interpret through our attitude and choices. Life is like the changing seasons—you cannot change the seasons, but you can change yourself. So the first major lesson in life to learn is how to handle the winters. They come regularly, right after autumn. Some are long, some are short, some are difficult, some are easy, but they always come right after autumn. That is never going to change. There are all kinds of winters: the “winter” when you can’t figure it out, the “winter” when everything seems to go awry. There are economic winters, social winters and personal winters. Wintertime can bring disappointment, and disappointment is common to all of us. So you must learn how to handle the winters. You must learn how to handle difficulty; it always comes after opportunity. That is never going to change. The big question is what to do about winters. You can’t get rid of January simply by tearing it off the calendar. But here is what you can do: You can get stronger; you can get wiser; you can get better. Remember that trio of words: stronger, wiser, better. The winters won’t change, but you can. Before I understood this, I used to wish for summer when it was winter. When things were difficult, I wished they were easy. I didn’t know any better. Then my mentor Earl Shoaff gave me the answer from a part of his unique philosophy when he said, “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”
Personal Development Coach
BAD TIMES - GOOD TIMES: Are there such thing known as bad times or good times? Recently when we hear news that the US economy is slowing down or even going into a recession, many people start declaring that bad times are coming upon us. Many countries begin to predict that their GNP will drop. To translate it into organizational terms, the sales managers are predicting that their sales are going to drop. If we were to translate it into individual terms, we are saying that our income will drop. If you to were analyze it carefully, you will notice that all the 3 cases above seem to point to the fact that the OUTSIDE ENVIRONMENT is going to affect us and there's nothing that we can do about it.
Has it not occurred to us that humans are supposed to have control over his environment? Like inventing the air-cond when our weather is hot. Like inventing the airplane when we can't fly. Like inventing the submarine when we can't breathe under water. What makes us so sure that our income will drop? It's something affecting our mind - it's making us feel hopeless. But why do we let it be? Why not take the situation in our own hands. Why not channel our efforts and thoughts to finding new business opportunities, new ways, new clients, new strategy to increase our business or Income?
Listen to what Chris Newton has to say:-
"There's no law, written or unwritten that says that just because the 'cake' is shrinking, you must have a shrinking slice of it. With innovative advertising and marketing? you'll survive and prosper ?even if others around you are falling by the wayside."
The key would lie on whether you have the courage to do things you have never done before; courage to explore new ways; courage to promote or market yourself when others are cutting cost and licking their wounds at home. Remember, businesses are outside in the market place - not behind the cozy desk.
For those of you who are working for others - this is the time for you to put your best foot forward. Come up with innovative ideas for your bosses. Volunteer to implement it etc. You will notice that Bad times will become the Best of times for you.
In case you may think that we only know how to preach - for your information, our business has doubled the last 4 months and we have more coming that we don't know how to cope.
Anyway I will leave you with a very wise statement by a very great man:-
"There are no such things
as good or bad times;
There are only different type of times!"
author of "Dare To Fail”
DARE TO FAIL: Failing is a natural part of life. The more you put yourself out there, the bigger the rewards but also the greater the risk of failure. By trying to be our best, we likely will fall many times before we reach our goals. That is the way learning goes. I have had many great successes in my life, but I have also come face-to-face with failure more times than I can count. I think it is impossible to be a parent or leader and not get to know failure on a first-name basis. In my experience with failure, both personally and professionally as an executive coach, I see that the more we are scared of failure, the more power it has over us and stops us from trying new things. And trying new things and making bold moves is what can lead to the greatest successes. So, we have a choice to make. Do we live life small, fearing that failure could be around the corner waiting for us? Or do we take chances, risk failure and dare to live a life beyond our wildest dreams?
Here are four tips to help take some power away from your fears of failure:
1. Think of failure as a normal part of life. The saying"What you resist, persists" applies to many areas in life, including failure. Not getting things right the first time is a necessary part of learning. Think of failing as the "playing" part of anything new you try. The quicker you become comfortable with failure, the less stress and more success you will likely experience.
2. Realize you're probably worrying for nothing. A lot of times, people worry about all the potential failures before then deciding not to proceed with the action. The cost of something not going as planned would be too much to bear. Keep in mind that most of the things we worry about actually never happen. So, acknowledge your fears, put them aside and don’t let them stop you from what you want to do.
3. Reflect. Give yourself some time to reflect on mistakes made, extract some learning from the situation and then move on. Stop being so hard on yourself and spending precious energy dwelling on and overanalyzing things. If you find your mind going back over the events of the day again, just keep saying to yourself, "Stop!" You may have to repeat this 50 times, but eventually, your mind will move on.
4. Have faith. Trusting what is meant to be has been the most profound lesson for me about failure. Some opportunities are just not meant to be. It doesn’t mean it was a true failure, just not the right fit or the right timing. Trust in the greater plan. Take a look back at your life, and chances are you will see that everything has turned out for the best, despite some ups and downs along the way. Do your best work, put yourself out there fully and have faith that life will assist in bringing the opportunities and people your way that will have the most profound impact on all parties involved.
Forbes Coaches Council
If you don’t know what you want, don’t say you never had a chance. The people who complain the loudest about never having an opportunity in life are usually the ones who always have a ready excuse for their failures. Nothing is ever their fault; they are victims of their heritage, their environment, insufficient education, or any number of other factors that they perceive as placing them at a disadvantage. If you look hard enough, you can always find reasons for not attempting something or not sticking with the job to the end. Successful people, though, are not excuse-makers. They take responsibility for their actions, they set goals, and they assume responsibility for their achievement. Where others see despair, they see hope. They approach every situation with enthusiasm, confident in the knowledge that nothing is impossible for those who have a Positive Mental Attitude.
Dr. Napoleon Hill
Founder, NHF, USA